5 THINGS THAT MAKE A MAN TO BE AN EXCELLENT MAN IN MARRIAGE

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Marriage is full of many hopes and expectations from the husband, wife, children and other external parties.

Each person in marriage wants to be a sweetheart and a loving angel. Sometimes the bar of expectations is too high that many spouses will never attain it. So, what are the solutions to some of these expectations in marriage? We take a cue from a lady, a mother, a woman, a mother-in-law, a wife though a widow but also a mentor. One day Ruth’s mother-in-law Naomi said to her, “My daughter, I must find a home for you, where you will be well provided for.”

What are the things that make a man in marriage an Excellent man to his wife, children and relations in a time like this?

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PROVISION OF A HOME

This means a place of rest for every member of a household. It is man’s or husband responsibility to have a home; a destiny-making place where future giants are born. People in marriage can realise their God-given purpose in marriage when their minds are at rest. This rest can only be realised through their total faith in God and trust in each other. For as long, then, as that promise of resting in him pulls us on to God's goal for us, we need to be careful that we're not disqualified. We received the same promises as those people in the wilderness, but the promises didn't do them a bit of good because they didn't receive the promises with faith. If we believe, though, we'll experience that state of resting. Hebrews 4:1-3.(MSG). God work of creation ended on the sixth day when he created Adam. On the Seventh day, God put Adam into rest. God’s system has not changed.

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PROVISION OF SPIRITUAL AUTHORITY

This means man must submit to God’s authority to bring his home under authority of God. He should receive for each day in each month and year, a clear direction for his marriage from God. “Yes, I’ve settled on him as the one to train his children and future family to observe God’s way of life, live kindly and generously and fairly, so that God can complete in Abraham what he promised him.” Genesis 18:19 (MSG)

PROVISION OF KNOWLEDGE

He must relate with his wife with intelligence and consideration that this is marriage and not a business venture or contract. You are not employed in marriage according to previous work experience but according to God’s provision to strengthen and support each other's lacking areas. For instance, women generally talk more than men. So it is good for a husband to study his wife more everyday and the wife to do likewise about her husband. Marriage is a school, couples are students, the scriptures should be the manual of a christian marriage and the Holy Spirit is the Master Teacher. However, this does not mean we cannot learn from other people and our environments.“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge” 1 Peter 3:1 (NIV)

                                                                                                      
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PROVISION OF Provisions:

“…where you will be well provided for". This means a man must provide finances, victuals, clothing, foods and any other nourishment for life and destiny fulfilment in the family. This will make the wife and children prosper in marriage. It should not only be provided but well provided for. Moreso, wife must support her husband in providing all these provisions for his family. Some wives support their husbands by having their businesses, career and other things. It is therefore the wife support that draws out the husband potentials and glory.

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PROVISION OF SECURITY

When a man provides home, the security or safety of his household should be established too. This may be a short term or long term security provision against internal and external attack targeted at his life and family. No devil wants you to have a restful home and successful marriage. Today, emotional sexual advances, child abuse, rape, pornography, cyberbullying, teenage suicide are increasing through wrong use of social media channels.You must train your household defensive and offensive weapons of faith, prayers, righteousness etc. Academic, career, financial, social, emotional, moral, sexual and psychological, ICT and security education are necessary in this age.  When Abram heard that his relative had been taken captive, he called out the 318 trained men born in his household and went in pursuit as far as Dan. Genesis 14: 14 (NIV).

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Spouses, this is a 21^st century challenge against your home or marriage. Will you make your wife and children to have rest? Until a man finds rest, it is possible that the woman or children in marriage may not find rest. This is rest from all forms of burdens in life: spiritual, physical, financial, material, health, business, career or job etc. This rest can only be found in God through Jesus Christ. I pray for you and your family and those who are planning to get marry or choose marital partners that you will find rest in your marriage. Your confusion is removed and your marital peace is restored in Jesus name.

Adewale Abiodun Fadare is a Pastor, Bible Teacher, Finance Expert and Writer. He lives happily with his wife and children in Lagos, Nigera. 

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